Forgiveness & It's Importance.

Day's ago I wrote this blog completed & perfected it. Today I came onto to my blog to publish the post and it was gone. I was so confused and I figured through my annoyance I'd make a lesson out of the situation for myself. Although it's not directly related to forgiveness it still is loosely related. I could choose to be upset and angry or I can make a choice here and now to let it go. Although I have no idea what has happened to the blog I choose not to beat myself up over it. All things happen for a reason and maybe God had better words for me to share instead. 

xoJ

So someone hurt you & you can't quite seem to get over it. You feel like if you let it go you let them off the hook. Well I have some great news for you today. Forgiving someone doesn't let them off the hook it lets YOU off the hook. It's a freeing action that you can take here and now! Here are a few reasons that I want you to remember and think about on why forgiving is important vital for growth.

• When you forgive other's it does not excuse their behavior nor does not mean what they did was ok. It just means you accept it for what it is and you have made a choice to not allow their actions to imprison you. You've made the choice to free yourself from the situation you were wronged in and to live happily despite the betrayal.

• People tend to mistake the cycle of forgiveness for something it is not. A lot of times people don't forgive someone because they are not ready to have things go back to the way they use to be. But, one of the most important things you should know is there is a such thing as forgiveness without reconciliation. You do not have to accept this person back in your life you don't even have to inform them directly that you've forgiven them (Forgiveness should never be the reason you allow someone to repeatedly harm or disrespect you). This bit of information is important because sometimes we never get the chance to forgive people who may have hurt us who we no longer speak to or who have moved on to heaven etc. You can forgive them today no matter where they are.

• It's good for your health. Stress, anger and bitterness can effect your physical health and cause illness. When you harbor in feelings that don't make you feel good. You are only hurting yourself and potentially making yourself sick. Release those negative vibes and feelings so you are able to live a happy life.

• Some say apologize when you are ready. I say apologize when you aren't because chances are you will never be 100% ready to forgive someone for something they've done. But we do it anyway because we know it's the right thing to do. Don't attempt to wait until you are healed from the offense to forgive. Do it while you're still broken it's the fastest way to heal and move forward. If you wait for the pain to go away on it's own you may be waiting forever.

• Sometimes we don't forgive because we want to "punish" people for whatever they have done ro us. But the truth is that is Gods job. It is not our Job to get people back or to go tit for tat with someone who has hurt us. It is our Job to be bigger than the issue and to trust God & if you trust Him he will handle it all in a way that is best for all parties involved. You are a forgiven person (Praise God) so you can most certainly be a forgiving person.